My oldest son is moving out today. Most of his worldly goods are packed up and piled on the trailer ready to be hauled away to his new apartment this afternoon.
Should I cry? Rejoice? Do a happy dance? Get a longer apron string to tie him with? Send him off with a big shove to make him hurry?
Here are my random thoughts:
**He should stay home until he gets married, and continue being part of the family.
**He should move out and prove that he can stand on his own two feet before he gets married.
**He should move out for now, and then later move back home again. He will have proven that he can live independently, but will have decided he doesn't like living on his own.
Most families go through a transition period called college. The child goes to college, but comes home for breaks and summer vacation. By the end of college, the family has adjusted to life without the child, and the child has gained independence and/or a spouse.
But for us, things are a little more sudden. Last night he was living with us full-time. Tonight he will be living on his own full-time. No transition, no adjustment period.
Okay, I'm happy for him. This will be good for him. But I want my little boy back.